Kate Hudson recently said on television that monogamy isn't "realistic," but added that couples do have the power to be faithful. I have heard that from many of my friends before that we are "polygamous" by nature and we force monogamy on us.  I also happen to have some friends who are proud to call themselves "polyamorous," or in other words, loving and being physically intimate with more than one person.  I recall that Brad Pitt said something similar about his divorce with Jennifer Aniston.

I am not sure if I agree completely with Kate Hudson but she said something else that I agree with.  "If you focus your attention on that, then you are always wondering if your husband or men are out there cheating on you."  We get so many emails from women who want to hire private investigators or follow their husbands/boyfriends, or check into his bags and even put software on the computer to track everything.  This is ridiculous.  Most of these women are simply struggling with their own insecurities and most often find nothing at all. 

"If for some reason, that's what he has to go do, I just don't want to know. As long as things are good in our house, just please, don't get caught," she added.  That is good advice to all the women out there who spend sleepless nights wondering if their partner is cheating.  I know that if someone decides to cheat, there is no way she or he will stop.  Plus, people who cheat these days are pretty savvy and they know how to avoid all those traps and private investigators.

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