Is it possible to be a virgin even when you are 40.  In our society, while this sounds impossible, it does happen.  I actually know some people (both women and men) who have done it so few times that it is as bad as never doing it.  So the movie "40 Year old virgin" plot does not surprise me.

I found several reasons for some people either being virgin or just having had sex so rarely.  Shyness was the #1 reason but other reasons were lack of self-esteem, lacking confidence to perform in bed, and being so concerned about their looks/weight etc. that they just wouldn't try.

As Andy Stitzer (Steve Carrell) says, "It just never happened.  When I was young I tried and it didn't happen.  And then I got older and uh I got more and more embarrassed because it hadn't happened yet, and then I just kind of don't know, quit trying."

And when he does meet Trish (Catherine Keener) - another 40 year old with three kids - you would think that he would make it but it so turns out that they are just happy being just two great friends. 

I guess if you have never done it you don't miss it!  So when did you do it the first time?