Martina writes, "I told a coworker that I love big black dicks the best, but opportunities in my life for that are nonexistent at the moment.  He said he knew an adult video place that I should try and told me they had glory holes.  Never heard of it so I Googled when I got home.  Certainly got my interest going. My question is are they safe?  I've learned the hard way that I need to be cautious.  What do you know about glory holes?"

Regarding glory holes, from what my friends tell me, it attracts a lot of gays, so I am not sure that a heterosexual woman has much hope there .  A very small number of women might try it too, but it is often too dangerous for women. 

And remember that with the adult videos going online and a ton of high quality porn on the web (that people can find in the privacy of their homes) only the very low end of the population rents at adult video stores now. 

They are not even places for shopping for adult products any more -- people buy even those online because it is private and you never to have to explain to anyone why a married woman needs a strapon dildo or vibrator or a why married man needs a fuckdoll. 

So personally I wouldn't suggest that you do it, unless you are with another person so that you are safe together.  Also keep a fully charged cell phone with you in case you need to call 911.

It is best to be discreet and avoid public places.  I think your best bet is Craig's List.  There are all types of men and women that would love to have someone like you join them for an orgy.  But again, I would say that if you are going to be at someone's house or hotel room, first meet them in a public place for a coffee or drink.  And if you have even 1% doubt that something is not right, it is best to say goodbye than to risk something. 

There are a lot of creeps out there but like you and I, there are a lot of sweet, nice people who enjoy sex.  So as long as you are cautious, you can have all the fun you want.